Is Finding Mr. Wrong Actually My Side Hustle?

Hi peeps!

Okay, quick Charty chat. How do we feel about the dating apps? They’re the worst in Boston. Maybe it’s because whenever I have a few beverages in me, I decide I’m rich and can front drop $30…per week… to get Bumble Premium or Hinge X! But something about an app making us pay for more selections to view someone attractive seems criminal. Then they show you men who have no business being seen – for no cost. It feels like these apps are exploiting our desire for love with features costing so much. Dating itself is frustrating, especially when you crave that partnership and It's just disappointing.

I know there are some soulmates that met on the apps, but lately it feels they have completely gone down the drain. We all have our own ‘worst date’ story from them as well. Trust me. I could tell you about the time I went on a date with a guy from Maine who had just moved out of his mother’s basement…with his girlfriend. Thank God I took all his cash for the Touch Tunes and Irish Car bombs! Or I could tell you about the date who insinuated I cheated on him by having my Hinge profile active…a day after our first date. But don’t worry, he stills stalks me on a photo editing app. And no one better bring up when I brought my Uber driver into my date with a man who was just simply that boring. So yeah, dating apps are difficult to begin with, but now I have to pay money to see new people? Uh, no thanks. It feels almost impossible now.

How do we find someone who is emotionally available, doesn’t ghost us, and has all his teeth? Or someone who doesn’t ghost us after a few messages? And why are these apps scamming us to find someone? No, I don’t want to subscribe weekly for $30 (or yearly for $299 to save!) Am I really going to find my husband by pulling out my wallet? No way! That’s his job!

I find myself taking these apps less seriously and instead trying to be more intentional with where I spend my energy. I’m focusing on my career, friends, projects, and myself. But sometimes it gets lonely. And that’s something I continue to reflect on. It’s a journey, and while it gets frustrating, the stories are so worth it.

KISS,

Charty

PS- If you have your own dating app horror story or worst date, please send them in so we can share them!