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Do It Scared: A Therapist’s Take on Social Anxiety
I talk a lot about not abandoning ourselves—whether that’s in relationships, at work, through people-pleasing, or because of low self-esteem. But I think there’s something to be said about anxiety, too, and the way it can pull us away from who we are. Social anxiety can make people slowly abandon themselves. The longer I work as a therapist, the more I realize social anxiety usually isn’t just about socializing—it’s about the fear of being perceived. The fear that other peopl
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5 days ago3 min read
Stop Pretending You Don’t Care (It’s Killing Us)
After skiing, après time, and MORE FUN the last few months…Mommy (me) is back with her favorite topic: DATING God, Charlotte, haven’t you already beaten this topic into the ground? Not quite! Hand me the talking stick, and I’ll try to make it quick… One of my favorite authors and psychologists recently sent an email that hit hard—some of you may have seen it on my blog’s Instagram story. Jillian Turecki , a relationship exper, was saying that modern dating is broken. She sen
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Apr 23 min read
Charty vs. the Bots: Can a Robot Really Understand Us?
In so much of my personal life lately, I keep hearing opinions about AI and ChatGPT (even though I always say “GBT!!!”). I swing between being impressed by the advances we’ve made and completely scared shitless about what’s next. People losing jobs to AI? Folks using it exclusively for therapy—or friendships, or job help? I’ve been following the conversation around AI and therapy for a while. The idea of someone turning to a robot for support frustrates me—but I also know how
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Feb 273 min read
Well-Fed and Highly Opinionated
The past two weekends have been full-on adventures, hopping between Boston and New York City, spending time with people I love and discovering new spots—even right in my own city! My parents visited a few weeks ago, and we filled our weekend with food, drinks, and adventures in the freezing cold. Then this past weekend, I headed to NYC to see my best friends Kevin and Michael, which, of course, meant eating, drinking, and exploring some amazing spots along the way. Olympic-le
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Feb 123 min read
Rigid Plans? Out. Spontaneous Joy? In.
At 6am yesterday morning, my car was packed with ski gear and optimism. I was so excited to make my weekly trip up to the slopes. As I started driving toward New Hampshire, traffic suddenly jumped by 40–50 minutes… uhmmm quoi? (That's 'what' in French! I'm hot and cultured!) The winter weather advisory was clearly worse than expected — accidents, ice, the whole thing. I didn’t feel like white-knuckling the drive just to ski for a few hours, so I turned around. And immediate
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Jan 183 min read
Seven Days of Holiday Outfits (Main Character Edition)
Seven festive looks I actually wore—from casual house parties to full holiday glam. It’s my favorite time of the year—holiday shopping, festive parties, and plenty of chances to be merry (ideally with a cup of cheer in hand). As an extrovert, I thrive during this season—especially when it involves red heels and big fur. I’m no Coco Chanel, but I can put together a killer holiday look. So instead of a full wardrobe guide, here are seven outfits I actually wore this Christmas
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Jan 83 min read
What 2025 Taught Me About Actually Living
2025 was the year I stopped living cautiously. I spent time reading my 2025 resolutions that I wrote back in January—which was a full-circle moment. I wrote about wanting to spend the year embodying simplicity and purpose, and fill my time with things that aligned with my goals. I wanted a quiet year with predictability since 2024 was so challenging. I wrote about wanting to slow down and live to the fullest. I wanted to feel confident at my new job and stop worrying about my
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Jan 13 min read
5 Days in Breckenridge Done Right: Cozy, Relaxed, and Magical
It’s safe to say I think the family Thanksgiving trip to Breckenridge was the best 5 days of my life… BAR FREAKING NONE. What a beautiful reminder to be present! It’s such a beautiful place, our Airbnb was basically my ski-girl fantasy come to life, and I just love Colorado with my whole heart. I’ve got so many insider tips, updates, and little gems to share from this trip. Packing & Travel Chaos... Packing before my trip almost became a mini crisis over which shoes to bring
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Dec 5, 20255 min read
Confessions of a Control Freak…And My Big Breck Excitement
Everyone knows my favorite time of the year is quickly approaching. Killington opened two weeks ago, and we saw flurries in Boston this week! It’s almost time for the thrill of crisp turns down my favorite trails, early morning treks up north, and the negative wind chill biting at my nose. You know…Après ski, meeting new ski friends, the whole thing. I’m ecstatic. Remember my post about staying present last summer? How I wanted to make sure I was living in the moment without
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Nov 25, 20254 min read
First Bad Review? My Ego Is Filing a Complaint
Last Thursday, just as I was gearing up for a fun-filled weekend with my best friend, my boss came in with some news: I’d received my first not-so-glowing patient review at this job. And honestly… I panicked, suddenly feeling insecure and off-balance in a way I hadn't felt in years. Crazy, right? Who wouldn’t love me! All jokes aside, my boss was so kind in delivering this news—making sure I wasn’t fully taking it personally or spiraling. (Although I definitely was.) He expla
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Nov 17, 20254 min read
Charty Life Hack #375: The Psychology of Reframing — and Why It Actually Works
Ever have one bad thought ruin your whole day? You wake up, look in the mirror, and see a couple of pimples. Your coffee spills. You’re late. Suddenly, it’s officially the worst day ever. You’re blasting Creed to feel sorry for yourself, and it’s all downhill from there. Recently, I’ve been thinking about what it means to reframe a thought —and how doing so can completely shift your mindset—which in turn can change your life. Therapist hat on today, folks! This is something I
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Oct 30, 20253 min read
The Power of Slowing the Hell Down
I’m realizing how much I love slowing down. Last week I was rushing around to appointments, (me having to do a naked full body check at the dermatologist...pass!), work, fitness classes, and seeing friends…every hour full and spoken for. I had my One Year Blog Anniversary party last weekend—which was so fun, but hosting takes a lot of energy! My body was on constant overdrive, not to mention my job is emotionally taxing at times. Sometimes it feels like Boston culture is all
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Oct 16, 20252 min read
High School, Upgraded: 10 Years Later and Killing It
I had the absolute pleasure of hosting my high school class of 2015’s 10-year reunion this past weekend alongside my buddy John. Months of planning paid off, and the event went off without a hitch! It turned out to be such a fantastic, fun-filled evening—far beyond what I was expecting. And of course, I ended up hosting the whole night, microphone in hand, soaking it all in. 10 years. Wow. It feels like it flew by in two years rather than ten. I will admit, after months of pl
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Oct 2, 20254 min read
Chateau Charty Turns One (Cue the Confetti)
Younger Charty dreamed of influencing young women and being ‘famous’ from the time she could hold a microphone. She spent years...
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Sep 19, 20254 min read
Older, Rich, Sexy… and Emotionally Unavailable as Hell
Picture this…you’ve survived speed dating, and then days later you meet this blonde, sexy, affluent man in a bar. You and your bestie spend hours talking to him over martinis. He offers to drive you home after you share a kiss, and it feels like fireworks. Before we go any further...you can relax, I’m not totally going to roast him—he never asked enough about me to know that a blog could exist! Two weeks ago, this was my Friday night, and I woke up the next morning insanely e
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Sep 8, 20254 min read
Southie Speed Dating: Where I Asked ‘So, What Do You Do?’ 47 Times in an Hour
I was two cocktails deep at the hotel bar in sunny, perfect Hawai’i when I got the text from my friend in Southie. It was a link for speed dating and said “Do you want to go and see what we see?” It might've been the tequila soda talking, but I said, “You know what…hell yeah!” I'm learning that in life, we have to take the risk sometimes. What did I have to lose? I’m working on putting myself out there with guys and this felt like a good opportunity. I also wanted blog conte
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Aug 27, 20253 min read
Pineapples, Puka Shells, and Perfect Days: Our Hawaii Journey
I know my readers have been dying to know about our recommendations and itinerary for Hawai’i so let’s recap! Annabel and I went to Oahu, for a sister trip; she flew down a couple days before me for her Plant Science Conference. APS I believe it’s called—but don’t quote me because I don’t know! The View Flying into Honolulu Flying in was unlike anything I've ever witnessed. I was nervous for the flight and unsure what to expect, but it truly did not disappoint. It looked like
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Aug 21, 20257 min read
Vibrance over Fear: My Island Wake Up Call
Hawaii changed my entire perspective. Okay I know you read that and probably think ...ugh here goes another person yapping about how a trip somewhere changed their entire personality . Hold your judgement for a moment and let me explain. My sister is in grad school working on her masters and earned her way to attend the annual conference for APS – plant studies, which just happened to be this year in … Hawaii! She planted the seed (pun definitely intended) for me to join her
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Aug 15, 20254 min read
From Cocktails to Coastlines: Our Ultimate Girls Trip from Charleston to Folly Beach
Hi besties! I am just returning from a long weekend in Charleston (Chucktown!) celebrating my beautiful cousin’s bachelorette. To say we had a blast is an understatement as I’m still recovering days later at work! Charleston is a beautiful city, much like Boston but with a more tropical feel…and the men are sexier (taller)! My cousin Julia gets married in September, so we headed down south to celebrate. My cousins Caity and Sarah went as well. We had the best of both worlds o
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Jul 31, 20256 min read
28 Candles and Not One Wish to Be Anyone Else
I turn 28 today. Celebrations are lined up to spend time with friends who have shown me what friendship truly means. Showing up for each other! I am so excited. I love my birthday (read: birth week) more than anyone I know...forever…it’s a national holiday in my estimation! I had written a piece reflecting on the past year including challenges and growth, but it sounded like a mash up of other blogs I’ve written. I wasn't sure how to honor my 28 th trip around the sun. Upon
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Jul 9, 20254 min read
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