Valuable Life Lessons We Can Learn from Charty's Journey

I think it’s so important to learn from other’s experiences. You figure out what works, what doesn’t, what you can tolerate. And what better teacher to learn from than me? The queen of trouble making and always having something to yap about! I wanted to share a few lessons I’ve been so grateful to learn before 30. Especially this past year, they have taught me so much about myself, my worth, and boundaries.

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• Don’t stay somewhere you’re not valued- trust me it’s not worth it.

• Good friends are hard to come by. When you have them, hold onto them.

• Speak up- whether it’s because you got the wrong drink at dinner, are stuck somewhere you don’t want to be, etc. You owe it to yourself.

• When people show you who they are the first, second, and third time…Please believe them.

• It's not about you. What people say behind your back, in their behavior, etc. is not about you. Read the Four Agreements and about not taking anything personally baby!!!

• If a man hasn’t made efforts to meet you after a week of texting—cut the check and bounce back babe!

• Outgrowing relationships isn’t strange or personal, it’s just the way life goes when you focus on you.

• Growing pains are REAL. It’s agonizing some days, but the view is amazing (Am I Miley Cyrus?)

• Don’t order dark liquor shots at a dive bar Sunday at 12pm. You will not make it to work the next day :/

• Odds are you probably don’t sound like Celine Dion when you’re singing country at a dive bar. Give the mic back to the singer before they boot you.

• You may be tired when you wake up at 6am, but don’t cancel plans because of it. The night or dinner with friends is almost always worth the sleepiness.

• That being said—take care of yourself. Limit alcohol, it makes you puffy and not cute. Sleep 8+ hours, chill with the hooch, and be kind to your body.

• Rest is more important than working out some days. 2+ Rest days a week peeps!

• When you’re in your head, call your people. Family, friends, friends that are family. Sometimes we get so wrapped up overthinking that we need people to remind us of the light.

• No one actually cares that much- do you and live your life accordingly.

• Love is not inconsistent. Say it again out loud! People prioritize what’s important to them. Be with people who demonstrate that they want to spend time with you, who actively try to be close and in connection with who you are.

• Call your parents. Every chance you get.

• Every choice we make is a chance. A chance for something different, a chance to reinvent ourselves. Choose wisely.

• Nothing good happens after 1am. Seriously- literally nothing.

• Don’t look in the rearview mirror. Even while driving away. There’s a reason you left.

• Relish in life’s endless joys. There are so many good ones. Sunny mornings, the feeling after a workout, the feeling of windows down in the summer in the car.

• Stop responding to everyone’s Instagram story after drinking. It wasn’t directly sent to you babe. (I am still learning this lol)

• There’s a difference between being strong and skinny.

• Book boyfriends are not similar to men in real life. If they were, Charty would be wife'd up by a single dad cowboy and running his ranch!

• Closure is a false sense of security. Let it go, move forward, and be where your feet are.

• The bartender is not in love with you, they literally just want your money. (How many times do I go to a bar and I'm like I can't believe I'm rizzing up this bartender. Uhmmm no he just wants me to order more Kettle One.)

Massive kiss,

Charty